It’s raining in SoCal today and it’s much needed for how dry it’s been here and all the wildfires. Hoping it rains for a few days! That means, I will be spending the day wrapped up in cozy sweaters like this one I scooped…

I have to first start off and thank everyone for your thoughtful and loving responses to yesterdays post on both the blog and instagram. It warms my heart knowing that you all wait for these updates and read the long posts that I write….

  • January 4, 2018 - 9:00 pm

    Natali - I love how positive you are and how your strong spirit keeps on inspiring me and also is a proof that no matter what happens to us on daily basis and no matter how hard obstacles we have to overcome, our attitude, faith and persistence are what will make thing happen and dreams to come true.
    I wish you all the best in this year and may it be the most beautiful and happiest year of your life by far. 🙂

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    • January 5, 2018 - 3:14 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so so much Natali! Thank you for these sweet heart felt words. All the best to you as well! xoReplyCancel

  • January 5, 2018 - 11:11 am

    Lexi - So much YAS! You and I literally are the same. So minimal. And my closet is overwhelmed by black, gray, and white.ReplyCancel

  • January 8, 2018 - 9:23 am

    Sharon - I love these looks! I actually just bought those Marc Fisher booties in a darker grey. I’m obsessed with them.
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It’s been awhile since I gave you all a proper update on our infertility journey. A lot of you have been keeping up with me on instagram and continue to motivate me every day to share our story with you all. I have been sharing updates…

  • January 3, 2018 - 7:51 am

    Sharon - I am always so amazed when I read your IVF journey. You are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing and being so honest, I am praying for you. I am turning 35 this year and don’t have kids do to the fact that I can not have them so I can relate to your pain, just a different journey. When I was 19 I was diagnosed with a disease and underwent a couple procedures that left me unable to have children by the age of 23. It was a horrible time in my life and I’ve always had to explain to past boyfriends when we were getting serious about the situation. I’m married now and happy and healthy so I can tell you that every journey and story does have an end and that at least is something to look forward to. I truly am praying for you and Blake, you deserve all the happiness.
    Love,
    Sharon
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  • January 3, 2018 - 9:39 am

    Alice - Deep down inside I think these blog posts are some sort of advertisement for IVF.

    I hope not.

    If they are I think there is nothing healthy or logical about doing three IVF cycles in 1.5 years…mentally or physically.

    What about your relationship with your husband? Have you focused on that at all during the last 1.5 years? Happy couples = good sex = good shots of sperm!

    You are far too young for such radical interventions…keep trying naturally. Stop stressing.

    Why did you not go back to IUI after the first failed IVF? Just do an IUI every month…if you ovulate and the sperm count is normal do a natural IUI for 300-500 bucks a month and eventually you will get pregnant…if after 6 tries up it to using some meds and try again.

    If implantation is the problem…use some home remedies or if worse comes to worse..get put on steroids if its your immune system.

    I don’t know Kimberly but I think this ‘journey’ has bordered on being an advertisement for IVF (although a very bad one) or some type of insanity

    You’re blog posts have further cemented my own infertility Journey Opinions of…

    1) Stop Caring so much and Trust in God
    2) Focus on creating an amazing love between my husband and I
    3) Find a doctor (found one) that can do an IUI for 500 bucks a month (move to a cheaper place to live) and do it once a month until I get pregnant (my ovulation is fine…but if necessary I will move on to meds)

    If after a year or two those 3 things don’t work, then I’ll do IVF.

    And if IVF failes, I will go back to the three point list.

    Getting into debt and all the credit card stuff…I mean this isn’t logicalReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:57 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Hey Alice,

      No my posts are not an advertisement for IVF, and if you actually read them, I share my story in hopes to break the stigmas surrounding IVF. IVF is a big deal and my personal choice to shed some light on this experience is just that, my personal choice. Every fertility story is different and I make it very clear in ever post that I am not a doctor, nor a medical professional. I am simple a woman going through an experience and sharing that experience. If you read my first post, you would know that I spent a long time doing 5 IUI’s before moving onto IVF as well as trying naturally for a year before that. Spending more money on IUI would be a waste as it was not solving the problem that I have.

      IVF is not for everyone in a lot of ways. Some people can not afford it, some don’t agree based on religious reasons, etc. IVF was something that was right for me and helped someone like me who has a lot of chromosomal issues with my eggs which is the whole reason why I was unable to get pregnant naturally.

      I trust that the universe will bring me my baby. No matter what way it comes, I will have my family. Trying hard to get that family is my own right. And I will go to the end of the earth fighting for my family. You can call it crazy, you can say it’s not logical, but it’s my choice.

      So while I hear what your saying, I don’t agree with you and don’t have to agree.

      So, next time you decide to judge my decisions and decide what is best for me, and my relationship with my husband, maybe you should focus that energy on supporting others going through crisis. We all need each other to get through these tough times. If you are going through infertility, I can’t imagine what your own story is like. I just wish for you the same I wish for everyone struggling, I hope you reach your family.

      Best of luck, KimReplyCancel

    • January 5, 2018 - 2:00 pm

      AE - Ummm Alice –
      Are you kidding me??? Get the hell out of here with this BS…you aren’t a doctor so stop with your crummy advice on how to get pregnant.
      Stay in your lane and if you don’t like Kimberly’s post/blog, go elsewhere.ReplyCancel

    • January 18, 2018 - 11:09 pm

      Melissa - You got this, Kim! I love reading your stories. This is what true blogging is, it’s about talking about your experience and sharing it with people to make a difference in culture. You are SO strong! Reading your stories and watching your IG stories makes me wonder why I have an IUD… Anyway, take care and happy new year!!! oxoxoxoxoxReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 1:12 pm

    Kat @ Carrie Bradshaw Lied - 4 EMBRYOS!! YASSSSSS!!! I’ve been waiting to hear the latest from you and this is SUCH GREAT NEWS! So excited for you and Blake and saying big prayers for these babies. XOXOXReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 1:29 pm

    Megan - Thanks as always for sharing your story. I’ve followed along with all of the IVF posts/updates. Sending along some positive thoughts for you and your husband as you continue on this journey. 🙂ReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 1:44 pm

    Kate - As someone who is gearing up for IVF cycle #1 soon I cannot tell you how much your posts mean to me. Infertility can be so isolating, especially when it seems everyone around you gets pregnant so easily. You’ve given me hope and strength, making me feel like I’m not alone in this horrible process. Keep fighting. I pray this cycle will be successful for you, and I know you will have your baby soon.ReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:36 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Kate, I am so happy I can help in any small way. I remember my first IVF was a very scary time. You are just thrown into everything and expected to be an expert. Hope I could give you some tips if any to help. Wishing you all the best as you move through this journey. Stay strong and know your baby is just waiting to meet you. xoxo KimReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 3:19 pm

    Shannon - Thinking of you and as always, thank you for sharing! Your optimism and honesty are incredible examples for how to deal with any obstacle <3ReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 3:21 pm

    Lisa - I relate so much to how you’ve described your experiences of Infertility and IVF. I was so happy to read about this round. You have to celebrate every win and this is such great news. I’ll be thinking about you as you prepare for your FET. Sending you lots of encouragement, hope and strength from the bottom of my heart!ReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:35 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Exactly. Celebrating each win is so important. Thank you for the support! xoReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 3:40 pm

    Amy - I couldn’t wait to read this…as I am about to embark on this journey. I just KNOW this transfer is all yours. It is going to stick. Your fight is almost over. Keep on going! Almost there!ReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:29 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - AH exciting Amy!!! Wishing you so much luck and success in your journey. Thank you for the support. xoxo KimReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 3:47 pm

    Julie Brown - Wow! So exciting!! rooting for you on the sidelines!!!ReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 4:11 pm

    Rae Gonzales - These posts always send me on a roller coaster of emotions! You are AMAZING! Thank you for your transparency with IVF, it shines light on hope for others. Your incredible strength is so inspiring. Praying for your continued strength, and of course sending all my love & prayers for a positive outcome. Keep fighting❤️ReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:28 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Rae, You are so welcome. Thank you for the positive vibes and support. xoxo KimReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 5:54 pm

    Kati - Kim, I don’t even know how I started following you YEARS ago on Insta. Back when you had a (ahem) different boyfriend, you moved to a new (and I think last) apartment in NY (idk why i remember that lol), you moved out to LA, you had a Hawaiian wedding! Point is, I have been following your life journey for years through social media and I am so heartbroken but also so incredibly happy for you. I was just on insta and came over to read your blog post and I am trying not to cry at work. I am not a mom, I have not struggled with infertility or IVF but I am a really emotional person. I can feel your pain, joy, heartbreak, and excitement in your words. I pray that you and Blake get the family of your dreams because if anyone deserves it, it is you! It is not easy to share your deepest darkest and most personal thoughts with all of the world. I hope you find comfort in knowing that you truly have people (even those who you don’t know) who have your back, who think of you, and who pray for you. Not to sound creepy but we are team Kim (and Blake, Lola, Bowies and Miles) and WE CANT WAIT FOR BABY LAPIDES!!!! I have a feeling 2018 is going to be a great year for everyone!

    Love and hope always
    From one Cat mom to Another
    Who is also hoping for human babies soon,
    @kati_ismy_patronusReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:27 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Kati, First off, thank you so much for following along all these years. Life has a funny way of bringing you places you never thought you might be. But finding my life here in California with my husband has been the best years of my life as well as some of the worst living through this struggle. Thank you so so much for all the kind words. The animals also thank u :))) We will make it through and continue to fight. Thank you again for your constant support through the years. It’s very special to me. xo, KimReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 7:36 pm

    Colleen Michalczyk - Thank you for sharing your story…I just read all your posts on IVF and infertility, I’am currently sobbing on the couch, all of this truly scares me too. I truly appreciate your information on this scary, yet real and raw subject. I learned so much from you and I am rooting for you.
    Positive vibes, Colleen.ReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:24 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - I know it’s so scary… but it’s such a reality for so many woman. I am glad I can shed some serious light on the topic. Thank you for the good vibes! xoReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 8:45 pm

    Margarita - Beautiful post and thanks for the updates! Praying for you and Blake and sending positive vibes and thoughts your way!!!

    xo
    miastuffsReplyCancel

  • January 3, 2018 - 11:11 pm

    Jackie - You’re story is inspiring. You’re so strong! We just started our infertility journey and reading your posts have really helped me put everything into perspective! Thank you!ReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:21 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - I am so happy to help in any small way. Best of luck on your journey to baby! xoReplyCancel

  • January 4, 2018 - 12:16 am

    Dana - As the mom of two IVF babies, this post just made me sob. So many things came back to me! But I’m so happy that you have your 4 embryos. That’s amazing and you will get your baby!!ReplyCancel

  • January 4, 2018 - 3:01 am

    Karla - I’ve followed you since the beginning and I love the way you always make this blog a real lifestyle thing, it kind of makes all the community closer. I’m really happy for your results this time and also I admire you for all the things you’ve to been through. Have faith, you are not alone. Thank you so much for sharing (I know It could be hard sometimes). Keep shining Kim.ReplyCancel

    • January 4, 2018 - 2:21 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Really appreciate those kind words from someone who has been following from the beginning. I work so hard to stay true to myself and invite you all into my life as best as I can and have these important conversations. Thank you for supporting me. xoox KimReplyCancel

  • January 4, 2018 - 3:35 am

    Logan Christine Ranhofer - I have absolutely loved hearing your journey through IVF here on the blog and on Insta. I am so excited for the results of round three!!! I can’t imagine how you must feel on a daily basis when you think about these things, but one thing I know for sure is that you are SO STRONG. No matter the outcome of the Embryo Transfer I know you’re strength will prevail.

    I’ll definitely be praying for you and Blake as you go through these next steps.

    xoxo
    Logan

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  • January 4, 2018 - 4:55 am

    Eve - Wow, you’ve really had a hard time with side effects and reactions to meds. I’m so glad that you now have 4 chances, great result. Wishing you both the very best of luck with your FET. XReplyCancel

  • January 4, 2018 - 7:41 am

    Sophie - Gosh, this is incredible news so far! I’ve been checking in the past few weeks since you got all the testing done to see what the outcome was.
    Glad you share everything you’re going through as I’m sure many other women are struggling to get pregnant like you do. It’s a journey you must not do on your own so it’s good you’re updating your followers and readers. We all have our fingers crossed for you two!ReplyCancel

  • January 4, 2018 - 11:04 am

    Sue Perloff - Kim, you are a pillar of strength for anyone going through this journey. You go girl!ReplyCancel

  • January 4, 2018 - 6:53 pm

    EMME - only one comment…you are in my prayers- it does sound positive…this coming from former IVF nurse coordinator. I will eagerly follow your updates…ReplyCancel

    • January 5, 2018 - 3:11 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - thank you!!! And you are an angel for helping people as a nurse. Thank you!!ReplyCancel

  • January 5, 2018 - 12:25 am

    Pam - It’s not easy to share this difficult experience so I applaud you for doing so. It really helps to read about other people going through the same things because it can feel like a very lonely journey otherwise. We went through 4 IVF cycles before we had our twin boys a year and a half ago so I understand all the physical and emotional challenges you are going through. I truly believe and wish very much that your 4 embryos will give you the family you have been working so hard for. Best of luck!ReplyCancel

    • January 5, 2018 - 3:13 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you Pam! So happy that after your long battle you got your rainbow babies. Thank you again for the well wishes! xoReplyCancel

  • January 5, 2018 - 2:16 am

    Asia - I’ve followed your whole IVF journey since your first round, and I could not be happier with your news! I cannot wait (and I am sure other can’t too) on your story about the transfer! Please keep us all update on your blog or your IG story! We are all rooting for you and your dream of having your miracle baby! Best of luck!ReplyCancel

    • January 5, 2018 - 3:12 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much Asia. Will keep you guys posted and thank you so so much for all the kind wishes. xoReplyCancel

  • January 5, 2018 - 1:33 pm

    Carrie - We’re about to start our IVF journey, and yours is the first blog I’ve read in my research efforts. Thank you so much for your willingness to share. It does my nervous heart good to hear stories from other couples like you and Blake.ReplyCancel

    • January 5, 2018 - 3:12 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Of course Carrie. I am sorry to hear you are also on this path but I wish you lots of luck and strength along the way. xoxoReplyCancel

  • January 17, 2018 - 2:31 pm

    Seppy - I just want to say that I’m wishing and praying for your miracle baby and thank you for sharing your story. I feel the raw emotions in your posts <3ReplyCancel

  • January 21, 2018 - 8:19 pm

    audrey leary - Kim, just sending you so much love and support from New England. You are amazing for sharing this, and you will be an amazing mama. xoxoxoReplyCancel

  • January 23, 2018 - 7:20 pm

    Shannon - Kim,
    Your blog was sent to me from a friend and I want to thank you for sharing. This IVF battle isn’t for the faint of heart, something I learned pretty quick. I’ve laughed and cried at your blogs, relating in so many ways! I just experienced my second failed cycle, the pain is real but knowing that other people like you are fighting this battle as well and your courage to share your story has helped me move forward to IVF #3. I’m thinking of you and hoping all the stars align during your next FET!

    Keep fighting to good fight!!

    ShannonReplyCancel

    • January 25, 2018 - 10:00 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Shannon,

      I am so sorry to hear about your failed cycle. I remember those dark times too well. I am so glad I can help in any small way just by sharing my story. You are not alone Shannon. We are all in this together! Best of luck on IVF #3. Stay strong. xoxo KimReplyCancel

  • January 25, 2018 - 8:43 am

    Kimberly - I’ve followed the blog for years and your infertility story is so important to share. Infertility seems to be this taboo subject that no one speaks about. I went through a similar experience a few years ago though not necessarily to the extent you are. I felt so alone, desperate and emotionally drained. At the time I managed a corporate benefits department for a regional clothing company and I spent large chunks of my day walking women through maternity leave. There were times I just needed to lock myself in a bathroom stall and cry because it wasn’t happening for me. Month after month of disappointment, 3 cycles of Clomid, HSG testing, a cyst that killed all of my left ovary eggs, fibroids, endometriosis, surgery to remove it all, more drugs, IUI-the process is overwhelming and time consuming but when I started talking about it, other women began sharing their experiences and it was amazing to know I wasn’t alone. I love that you shared your story with your readers because there are so many of us out there and you can’t realize the lives you touch when you are brave enough to share your experiences.

    I’ve shared mine when people ask; it’s so important to be an advocate for yourself and others. My story ended in success and my husband and I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter (a depleted bank account as well and the knowledge that as much as we would love another child, this miracle is more than likely the only). I’m hoping yours does too. I pray for you and Blake and again, I am so grateful you shared your story.ReplyCancel

    • January 25, 2018 - 10:09 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - Kimberly, I am so sorry to hear about your own struggles. It seems there is this whole secret world of people dealing with infertility. It’s truly frightening. I am so happy that you found my blog and it’s helped in any small way. It’s helped myself so much to open up and connect with so many amazing strong woman (and men) dealing with infertility. We are an army fighting together. I am so happy to hear that you finally got your miracle! I feel like every horrible thing to have happened, every tear is all worth it in the end when you get your miracle baby. I know the financial aspect is SO hard. I am right there with you. Thank you again so much for opening up with me and sending your well wishes and strength. xoxo KimReplyCancel

  • April 7, 2018 - 12:12 am

    Avital - I would love to hear your experience with your FET. It’s so hard to find personal accounts of going through an FET, it always seems to be a quick comment about the progesterone and not much more. Many happy congratulations on your pregnancy and thank you for your transparency about your journey.ReplyCancel

    • April 9, 2018 - 1:29 pm

      eat.sleep.wear. - hi! I am working on a post for FET because I have been getting SO many questions about this lately. Stay tuned! If you need more immediate advice please shoot me an email at eatsleepwear@gmail.com and happy to send you some notes. xoxoReplyCancel

A very happy 2018 to everyone today. You won’t find any New Year’s Resolutions here. I feel like I used to make these lists years ago and some things were accomplished and some things not. I think goals are very important to…

So it’s very clear that I love my dog to a very high level. Lola has been the best addition to our family and she brings such endless joy to both our family, and people she meets. Obviously I love my cats to a crazy level also but…