Excited to finally share with you that Blake and I are having a BABY BOY!!!!!! What’s been so special about our gender reveal is that with everything we went through doing IVF, there are really no secrets to hold onto and save to share with loved ones. A part of the pregnancy process is ripped away from you when struggling with infertility and that is often a hard pill to swallow. But the special thing was that we were able to keep the gender a secret from our families and able to share such special news with them as our own little secret to unravel. Because of the process we went through, we knew the babies gender on the day of our transfer. We both wanted to know and it helped me so much to visualize my life with baby and to get through the rest of the IVF process. I am not one for secrets! Love the idea of being able to fully prepare for baby boy’s arrival. It’s now amazing not to have to hide the sex and share the little baby boy goodies rolling in to shower our sweet boy. Sharing some more about our gender reveal, how we are feeling, and more below. We can not wait to meet you Baby Boy Lapides!!!
How did we reveal to our families?
Since both our families live on the East Coast, we decided to send both our families confetti bombs to spill our secret. We videoed in to watch them find out the gender and that was a very special moment. Also, it was great to watch them figure out how to use the confetti bombs. HA!
Do we have a name?
YES! We have a name and we are keeping it a secret. Once our little dude is here, you will be the first to know.
How we are feeling about having a boy?
In all honesty, I secretly wanted a girl. I know girls. I grew up with a sister. I feel guilty even typing that because of how much we went through to get here. But it’s the truth. I think we all have our hopes when it comes to gender for whatever reason. I think I was a little bit disappointed, mostly because the first embryo we transferred and lost was a girl. The only reason I am sharing any of this is because it’s important to know that that feelings you have are valid. Even though it seems so ungrateful to feel disappointment when it comes to gender, it’s human to feel. And it’s ok. I would be lucky to to have any baby in my life. After the first initial moments of finding out, of course now, we could not be happier to have a little boy join our family. It’s going to be a beautiful learning experience and good thing I have Blake to help me out and know what all the cool boys do!
Have we started the nursery?
We are in the beginning stages of researching for our nursery. Anne is going to be helping us put things together and I am literally bursting to create a room for our tiny little man. Our guest room has always been “the babies room” and it’s crazy to believe that the room is finally going to transform. I plan to keep the nursery pretty gender neutral and give it a sophisticated twist so the room can really grow with him. Can’t wait to share the details as we continue to dream up baby’s nursery.
Have we bought anything for Baby Boy?
So, if you don’t know, Blake and I are DIEHARD Philadelphia sports fans. So the minute the Eagles won the superbowl this year, Blake was online ordering the baby all his Eagles super bowl gear. Soon after, Blake has bought every Philly sports team onesie he could find. Needless to say… he is so excited and our baby is going to decked out for every sports season. We haven’t bought too much else yet but we did scoop up 2 H&M mickey mouse outfits for next fall for baby’s first trips to Disneyland. We live pretty close to Disneyland and already go alot (as adults with no kids!). Can’t wait to share the Disney magic with him.
What’s up next?
As you read this we are likely at our OBGYN getting our anatomy scan!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am currently 18 weeks 5 days and I have looked forward to this day for so long. The last time we saw our baby was week 12 and then at week 16 we heard baby’s heartbeat but didn’t see him on ultrasound. I have been having serious anxiety waiting to see him!!!!!! We were so used to seeing baby every week going through IVF so it’s been a transition to get used to the fact that our visits are further apart. This anatomy scan takes between 45 minutes to 1 hour and it’s the longest ultrasound during pregnancy. They basically measure every little bitty part of of the baby including arms, legs and organs etc. They are checking to make sure all development is on track and looking good. I AM SO EXCITED!!! Have to try to soak in every minute with our sweet baby during that appointment.
Again, I have to continue to thank you all for your kindness and warm wishes for our little boy. There is not one day that I take this pregnancy for granted. Every day closer to my delivery date just puts a smile on my face. It’s incredible to know that from such pain can come such beautiful bliss. Baby Boy Lapides, you have no idea how long we have waited for you and the day I get to hold you in my arms, I am going to be forever grateful to be your mother.
Rena - Having a boy is easier than raising a girl – at least in our family as we have both genders 🙂 Congratulations!
xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
eat.sleep.wear. - Thanks Rena! xo
Margarita - A Baby Boy!!!! Congratulations, so happy for you and Blake! The photos are all so beautiful! Everyone I know is having a boy. Personally I love boys, they really are super sweet. 🙂
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much for the warm wishes Margarita!! xo
Rebecca - Yay! Congrats to you both! I also very much was hoping for a girl my first pregnancy and was a little dismayed to find out we were expecting a boy. I grew up with a sister and brothers and was so much closer to my sister. I also enjoy more “girly” things (although I know this is so silly because your baby could end up liking ANYTHING regardless of their sex, trust me, they have opinions), but once our sweet boy was born, I couldn’t have been more in love or happy. You will love your baby just because he’s yours. Our little guy (2 now) does love trucks and trains, but he’s also a thoughtful, calm, sweet little guy. We are actually expecting a girl in July and all I keep thinking is that I hope she is as sweet as her brother! So happy for you!
eat.sleep.wear. - See that is exactly what I hear, you could have never pictured your life without them. MELTS MY HEART!!!! Thank you 🙂 xoxo Kim
Kristen McDaniel - Aaaah! Little boys are awesome! They love their mamas, and they’re so so sweet. And they’re so fun! Youll learn to appreciate all kinds of trucks and construction vehicles you never knew you’d ever care about! 🙂 You’ll be a great boy mom! Congratulations again!
eat.sleep.wear. - Awe thank you so so much! xo
Michelinne - My heart bursts reading your pregnancy updates!! Congratulations on your baby boy!! I went through two years of fertility treatment and one miscarriage. Today, I am holding my 5 week old baby girl in my arms and I still cannot believe how blessed I am. I am over the moon for you both! I have loved how honest and raw you have been throughout your journey. I felt such guilt for any negative feelings I had during my pregnancy after how hard we fought to get there, but no matter your journey, the transition to motherhood is just that, and all feelings are valid. I look forward to more updates. Enjoy the anatomy scan. It was my absolute favourite ultrasound and I still get emotional thinking about how magical it was.
eat.sleep.wear. - H MICHELINNE!!! Congrats on your sweet baby girl. What a blessing after such struggles. Thank you so much for following along this journey with me. xoxo Kim
Danie - Kim, I am over the moon for you and Blake! I’ve been following your story for quite some time and although I know you best as Lola’s dog-mama, I can’t wait to see you blossom into motherhood. You’ve already done so much for your sweet son and I know he is going to be one incredibly lucky little guy to have such fantastic, dedicated parents. Best wishes to your growing little family and lots of love from ours!
Erika - So happy for you !!! Congratulations!!!
I had my rainbow baby boy this January after 2 misscarriages. Hooray for 2018 babies ! Enjoy this special time,wish you healthy pregnancy and delivery.
eat.sleep.wear. - CONGRATS ERIKA!!!! xoxo
Camila - Congratulations! I don’t know you but I’m so, so excited for you! As for the gender, my mom had three girls and she’s always going on about wishing to have a boy. According to her, they’re more laid-back and much more cheaper, lol. Still, I wish you the best on this pregnancy and the years to follow!
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so so much Camila! xo
Annie - I have to tell you that I also wanted a girl and she’s my first. Don’t get me wrong. I love my girl. But then my boy was born and he stole my heart. Literally.
eat.sleep.wear. - AWEE thanks Annie! xo
Codrut Turcanu - I’m happy for you guys, God bless you all, including the baby boy 🙂
Cannot wait to hear more news and see more pics from you.
P.S. Me and my girlfriend we are preparing for a baby next year.
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so so much!! And best of luck on your own baby adventure, .xoxo Kim
LoveCompassionateLee - Congratulations! I know you wanted a baby girl, but o the joy you will feel watching at your baby boy over the years.
Speed, Testera - Congratulation to you both. I wish you all the best.