It’s been awhile since I gave you all a proper update on our infertility journey. A lot of you have been keeping up with me on instagram and continue to motivate me every day to share our story with you all. I have been sharing updates on my instagram stories mostly talking about each step and where we are at the moment. Be sure to tune in for some more timely updates there but I will also continue to share with you guys here in a longer form.
I last left off with the spirit of hope after a devastating (and long) summary of what we had been through with our first failed IVF cycle. For those that haven’t read it, I posted a massive blog post talking about our infertility struggles, IUI’s and first round of failed IVF here. Before I get into everything, I want to remind everyone reading that everything I write about here is purely based on my own experience. Everyone’s body and infertility journey is unique to them and I am by no means a medical resource. Just want to put out the gentle reminder that everything I share is based on my own experience as I try to do my best to share what I have been through. If you ever have an important question, please reach out to your amazing doctors and nurses who will be able to give you all the answers you may need.
IVF Round Two: Making a plan
After our first round of IVF, we took some much needed time off. Time off from injections. Time off from doctors appointments. Time off from medicines everyday. Time off from infertility. When I say time off from infertility… I kind of feel like there is never any time off. But, taking time to just be the two of us and live a normal life not structured by shot times was important for us to reset our bodies and most importantly our minds. It was the first break in treatment in a year and you don’t realize how much you run yourself down. Blake and I were finally feeling like ourselves and refreshed to look at our next step with an open heart and open mind.
We made our first appointment with the doctor so that we could talk to her about our previous cycle, what went wrong, and what we could do better next time. I had been writing down notes and questions in my google docs to make sure we remembered everything we wanted to talk to her about. We came up with a plan to focus on maturing my eggs more evenly in hopes to get more embryos in the end. My doctor is one to always change up protocols to see if there is something different that could be more successful. I am a big supporter of this approach. If something doesn’t work, why not try something different. IVF is the craziest science experiment and it’s always good to see if my body responds to other medications in more positive ways. Our plan was to do some estrogen priming for my ovaries and use micro dose lupron in collaboration with omnitrop and then follistim and menopur to get my eggs growing as evenly as possible. My biggest concern was how do we get better chances to get more embryos and this plan sounded like a good one. I was literally chomping at the bit to get started. We also talked to her about fertility therapists. Blake and I have never gone to therapy together and we thought it would be great to talk about where we were at in the process with someone that specialized on the subject. More on that later. I also talked to her about any financial programs we might be able to enroll in. Sadly because we already had one failed IVF cycle, we were no longer eligible for some of these programs. This is just another reminder for all you ladies (or men) early on in your infertility journeys to ask all of these questions at the beginning. No matter if IVF is not on your radar, it’s SO important to empower yourself with as much information when it comes to the financial aspects of the infertility process. I felt like I researched every nook and cranny but there was plenty that I missed. You are your own advocate to make sure to really push for all of this information so you have the tools to deal with the process.
Blake and I went together to meet with a therapist that specialized in what we were going through. She came highly recommended from my doctor. I loved the idea of us going in together as this whole process puts a lot of strain on relationships. Your partner is there for the good the bad and the REALLY ugly and it’s always a great idea to be on the same page.
A really great thing about my relationship with Blake and is that it’s very open and we have a great line of communication. I tend to go off the handle much more than he does especially with the amount of hormones I have pumping through me these days. I am so lucky that he can balance out my crazy through all of this. Don’t get me wrong, we have our really terrible days and those are hard. Really hard. But it’s being able to really see our actions and reactions to things and take that moment to readjust, and realign with what we are working toward. We will never be perfect people, but we work everyday to better for each other and with each other.
Our first session was actually our last. While we loved the therapist we met with, Blake and I were in a great place. We decided that this was a good introduction for down the line if we needed more support. It was great for us to know she was there in the wings to help whenever we needed a helping hand. For anyone thinking about going to couples therapy for infertility, it’s definitely something I would recommend to help align each other and open the lines of communication. Even though we only went to 1 session, it was helpful. Those are my two cents about it anyways.
I was so excited to finally get the go ahead to start with all my medications. Every step forward is a mini victory. Having gone through one round of IVF already, that fear factor just melted away. Injections? No big deal. Well, I am exaggerating but you get the gist. We had more injections this cycle than last. In the mornings I would take microdose lupron + menopur. At night I would take microdose lupron and follistim. Follistim also known as “folliSTING” was not my favorite. While menopur stings more going on, Follistim would sting going in and afterward. Not my favorites but you get through. I started on a 450 IUI dose of follistim and kept that dose for most of my stim cycle. 5 days later, I also started a 5th injection called Omnitrope. This was a growth hormone to help mature the eggs. Every injection was getting us to our little baby. So I would think about that every time we did them. Starting the cycle is always hard when you know how many more days lie ahead of you filled with endless medications. But, stay strong my friends. The light at the end of the tunnel is worth every bruise, and every uncomfortable second.
As far as side effects go, they were pretty similar to my first round of treatment. BLOAT CITY. My body became extremely bloated and uncomfortable as each day went one. Toward the end of my stim treatments, my body would feel so heavy and I would be extremely exhausted. I think the important thing for me was really taking it easy and not pushing my body past its limits. I got a lot of questions on whether or not I was allowed to work out. The short answer: HELL NO. Since I experience ovarian torsion in my last cycle, my doctor wanted me to be very careful. No working out and no twisting. Trust me, you won’t be in the mood to work out when you have two sacks of grape size eggs getting all big and cozy in your ovaries. Don’t forget to ask your doctor if you have a question about working out.
In the last few days before egg retrieval, even small trips in the car would be extremely uncomfortable for me. I was living in dresses and oversized workout pants since I was way too bloated to fit into any of my regular clothes. I think anyone going through changes in the size of their body knows how hard it can be. While I can easily photograph my “good angles” and pick outfits to hide my insecurities, it’s really fuckind hard having no control over the state of your body. I remember having conversations with my fellow IVF friends about wondering what it was like to actually work out and know your body. When you have been taking hormones for over a year, your body changes and there is little you can do about it. Some days are easier than others. There are so many things out of your control when you are doing fertility treatments so not being able to do anything about your growing and changing body is a real challenge. One small thing that helped me was buying some pair of jeans and pants for my changing body. Releasing the need to control my growing body and just going with the flow was the best thing I could do. This way, getting dressed was not a constant reminder of how much weight I gained, or how bloated I was that day from all the medications. I know this seems like a small insignificant thing, but adding a few new pieces to my closet really helped my mood and lifted my spirits. It’s the little things to help you get through this process that mean the most.
We were almost to a major moment, our egg retrieval. Counting down those days was getting more exciting by the moment. This was our chance to do it again, and kick ass.
My mantra: Love over Fear
I had a big shift in my mind and heart between IVF 1 and IVF 2. I went from being scared and doubtful, to being hopeful and excited. I knew that this time around there was no room for doubt, and only room for love. I think it took me hitting rock bottom after that dreaded phone call to be able to pick myself up and rebuild. I decided that that only way myself and Blake could do this whole thing again was to completely surrender to the hope in our hearts. I continued to read this book that really helped to put things into perspective to me. Something just clicked. Everything started to flow more smoothly and every road bump was just that, something that happened, and then we moved forward. My single hardest challenge with infertility is keeping hope alive. It’s been one of my number one priorities to keep hope with me everyday. Now, when I stray from hope, instead of get angry with myself, I just recognize it and move back to where I need to be. If there is any advice I can give to anyone going through this: love over fear. Hope and faith is what help to get us all through this rollercoaster.
Heading into egg retrieval surgery for the second time was a lot easier for me. I was comfortable with our surgery center and was ready to get the show on the road. Everything was going great until my nurse introduced me to her nurse in training. Instead of get tense, I decided to go with the flow. That is when things got hairy. The nurse in training was the one to get my IV going. Now, I might be a pro with injections but IV needles still give me the creeps. She tried to get me once… and it didn’t work. I was not amused. My nerves were pumping and the clock was ticking to the exact moment we needed to retrieve my eggs. Then the original nurse tried… two times. NO DICE. WHAT THE FUCK. I started crying. I am there waiting for the most important surgery of my life and they can’t get an IV in my vein. Another nurse came out and tried… no dice. I was about to have a panic attack. Finally the anesthesiologist came out and got me on the first try. GOD BLESS THAT MAN. Apparently this is common to have issues with veins but it was about to throw me over the edge. Despite a rock start to the day, I was finally being rolled into the operating room with my fingers crossed.
We got 9 eggs. 5 of those eggs fertilized. Out of those 5, we got 2 embryos. We sent cells from those 2 embryos off for genetic testing to see if they were genetically healthy and normal. Last cycle we had only got 1 embryo for testing so this was amazing to double our chances. The wait began.
Post Egg Retrieval Recovery
I was hoping my recovery would be better than my first. The first two days after surgery are always a cakewalk compared to the dreaded day 3 or 4 after surgery. Those are the days that the symptoms get worse and recovery gets harder. I decided to play it safe and spend my entire recovery sleeping and laying on my back so that I would not be twisting around in my sleep. While some people recover quickly, unfortunately, I am not one of those people. The insane bloating and and discomfort seems to be endless. I am happy to report that I had ZERO torsions this cycle. That was what I was the most scared of in my recovery. I did however have 2 nights where I woke up in writhing pain, had to spring to the bathroom and spent 15 minutes rolling on the floor with intense pain. Since you end up with lots of cysts post retrieval, these pains are due to the shrinking cysts. God bless Blake who would wake up in the middle of the night to follow me to the bathroom and give me cold compress’ to put on my forehead while I was breathing through the pain. Those nights were hard but less scary since I was armed with the information of what was happening and that I would get through it. So while the recovery is really difficult for me, we got through and it was a touch easier having been through it once before.
Since my doctor’s office is pretty high tech, I have been able to communicate with my doctor and the staff through an online patient portal. This is how we received the results of our 2 embryos that made it to genetic testing. I knew my office would call with these results so everytime my phone would ring I would anxiously await my doctor’s office name to pop up. Since I have the world’s best IVF nurse, I have been in contact with her via text which has been a HUGE help for me for last minute questions after hours. I randomly texted her one day asking if results had come in. She texted me back that the results were in and she would call me soon. My heart started BEATING OUT OF MY CHEST. My phone rang and Blake answered the call this time. We had 1 genetically normal embryo. The other embryo was abnormal. I started to cry. I was happy. I was sad. I was everything. I was so blessed to have another chance to have my miracle baby. While it would have been amazing to have both embryos be healthy, this is our lucky little embryo. It’s our miracle baby.
Next Steps: ERA Test
Because we had a failed IVF cycle with a chromosomally normal embryo as well as only having 1 embryo from IVF round 2, my doctor wanted to give us another option of how we might be able to get it right this time. She suggested that some of her patients who have multiple failed FET (Frozen Embryo Transfers) decide to do the ERA test. The ERA (or endometrial receptivity array) is a genetic test that diagnoses the state of endometrial receptivity in the window of implantation in women. It’s very confusing to explain. If I have to break it down in very easy to understand terms here goes nothing. When you are prepping for an FET, you typically begin your progesterone (injections, suppositories, or pills) a certain amount of days before your transfer. The test helps you know whether you need less days of progesterone, if you are right on the money, or if you need more days of progesterone before your transfer. Like I said, this is a very basic description but I found it a good one to give people a quick recap. Because of my previous failed cycle and only 1 precious embryo, I decided I wanted to get as much information as possible to ensure we had every advantage in the world. The only downside to ERA is that you do a full “mock FET cycle” meaning you do the weeks of medications and do everything you normally would for an FET. On transfer day, instead of doing the transfer, you do a biopsy of your lining. Then 2 days later, you do another biopsy. So you are essentially losing some time before you are able to start your true FET cycle. Obviously you are still spending money on medications and the actual ERA test (which is NOT cheap). I feel like when I hear $1000 bucks I am so jaded to think, “wow that is cheap.” In the end, a few additional weeks and side effects are worth everything if it means we will have the BEST chances we can. Every penny spent is a penny spent for our future family. My doctor didn’t pressure us either way. She wanted us to have all the information and make the decision. It was settled. ERA test here we come…
Obviously I took to google researching EVERYTHING about this test and the actual biopsy. The research that I have read shows that 25% of people are transferring on the wrong day. That is 1 out of 4. That is a HUGE number. I know this information will be useful to us. Then, I started to google the actual biopsy. Let me tell you again, the internet is a SCARY place when you are looking for medical information. SCARY. People were saying this biopsy was worse than the dreaded HSG test. That worried me. Honestly we are poked and prodded so much through the infertility cycle. I knew I just had to get through it and not fear the procedure. I did my best to stay calm and not let fear take over.
The day of the ERA biopsy, I took my valium and 800 motrin 30 minutes before. We went into the office and I was ready. Ready to get some answers. I knew it would be incredibly uncomfortable but that it would be over quickly. The doctor talked through each step so I would be prepared which I really appreciate. I squeezed Blake’s hand and we were ready to go. They basically insert a long plastic device and scrape your lining to grab as much tissue for a good sample. My doctor let me know we might need to try a few times to ensure our sample was adequate for the test. She was also going to pull some tissue for a separate test to find out if I had any bacteria in my uterus. It hurt… it was pretty bad but in the end, it all happened so fast. The cramping was intense with the actual scraping. At least when she stopped scraping most of the pain and discomfort stopped almost immediately. Deep long breaths helped so much. She gave me time between each sample to breathe and relax. In the end, we did 3 separate scrapes. And before we knew it, it was over. We went back two days later and we did 2 separate scrapes for tissue. I was so happy to be done. I literally gave me doctor a high five I was so happy to be finished this part of the process. We left the doctor’s office with orders to stop all medication. I was finally free to just be myself again. So the wait started for our test results.
Bacteria in my uterus
While we are still waiting for our ERA test results, our other lining test came back. I had a large amount of bacteria growth in my uterus. FINALLY. An answer. This could have an impact on implantation so I was glad to find something that is treatable. I started penicillin immediately for a 10 day treatment. I am allergic to sulfa drugs so I have to always be careful with which antibiotics I am given. This time it was penicillin. Let’s just say, penicillin is the devil. I have been having intense nausea and stomach cramping from the medication. We will see if I stay on the penicillin or switch to something else. Only time will tell how bad the symptoms continue to be. In the meanwhile, I went back to the doctor’s office for some more blood work.
More tears at the doctor’s office
I was sitting in the waiting room alone (Blake usually comes with me to appointments as much as he can) as I was waiting for my blood draw appointment. I swear every time I am waiting there, a patient is on her last appointment finally 10 weeks pregnant and graduating from the specialist office to her OBGYN. My instant response is insane jealousy. Sadness. Why isn’t that me? After more than a year of coming into the same doctors office, those days are hard. VERY hard. After I have my moment of jealousy, I snap myself out it. It’s amazing that my doctor is creating miracles for other people and I have to see the light in that. I know one day soon, that will be me, leaving that office, tears in my eyes with happiness and a baby in my belly. When I finally went in for my blood work, I met with my amazing nurse. I think she just knew… I was having a hard week. I burst into tears. I am not even on any hormones, although I am still on a lot of other medications to help my lining etc. I think it’s becoming more real that I am finally almost to my FET. It’s almost time to take our chance again. Our 1 chance for a miracle. As positive as I have been this whole IVF round 2 process, I won’t lie to you about how I am feeling currently. I am literally scared shitless. The gravity of the situation is finally upon us once again. The same situation: 1 embryo. 1 chance. It’s really hard to put this into words as I type it. I am scared. My patience has worn thin. I feel like a pincushion. I feel like a science experiment. Everything gives me a side effect. All of this is true. Some days are easier than others but all of them are a struggle. Going through IVF is like a full time job on top of your full time job. Holding a balance of normalcy while there is a lot of your life that is out of control is a constant challenge. There are some days where you just need to cry. And cry a lot. If you have been through infertility, you know this feeling. I always end up blaming myself for not being stronger. But I can’t punish myself for being human. I think as long as I continue to recognize when I am feeling down and out of control, to take the moment to bring myself back to the love and light that I preach. No one is perfect and I think I need to remind myself that.
Next Steps: Gain Some Weight
I have 1 embryo. And you know what they say, it only takes one. I sometimes cringe when people tell me that, but it’s so true. My mission is to fight as hard as I can for that little em-baby. So while some days are really fucking hard, I put one foot in front of the other and go to battle. Part of our next step is that my doctor and nurse want me to gain some weight (approximately 10 pounds) before we do our next FET. While my BMI is totally normal, recent studies are showing that implantation rates are highly affected by BMI. So in an effort to do every single thing we can possibly do to give us the best possible chances, I will put on a few extra pounds to see if this can help make a difference. Some of you might think of this as “no big deal” but try to tell a woman who has lost a sense of her own body and been gaining weight due to months on months of fertility treatments. In my case, over a year of fertility treatments. I am already up 10 pounds from treatments and not being able to go to the gym. Not to mention, I have to photograph myself for my business. I know you will say, “you look great,” but I know my angles, and I know how to hide my body changes and insecurities. I wish I could have been pregnant normally so my body could have been fit and naturally healthy. But we don’t have that luxury of being our best physical selves when doing IVF. I have never really talked about the weight gain and how it can be tough for women going through that. It was normally a text sent to my friend Caitlin, just needing someone to commiserate with me for a minute. Meanwhile, woman that naturally get pregnant can do so at their own terms. When so many choices and chances are taken away from you, something so small as having to put on another 10 pounds means a lot. So while I was not happy to hear I had another roadblock in my way, every pound put on is for my baby. So I will do it to the best of my ability and in the healthiest way possible. But, I will tell you what, if I want ice cream every night (organic full fat of course), I will have some damn ice cream because after all of this, I deserve it.
We finally got our ERA results: RECEPTIVE. This is great news. It means that the day we plan on implanting our precious embryo is perfect. This means the lining is ready for implantation. While this test was very expensive in more ways than one, I will say getting answers is worth it. For me, as well as for your doctor, knowledge is power. So it is an important answer in our journey forward.
Next Steps: IVF Round 3?
I know. Typing that out is almost as horrifying as typing out IVF the first time. Since we have 1 embryo and 1 chance for success, we have to think about our future. We have Scenario A: Implant embryo, get pregnant, stay pregnant, have baby. Then we have Scenario B: Implant embryo, not pregnant. You have to think, what will I do if this doesn’t work? Because if you are going through IVF having a plan is everything. You need to have realistic expectations of where you will go next both financially and emotionally. Do you have money for another egg retrieval? Would you think about egg adoption? Embryo adoption? Adoption? There are so many ways to grow your family. So many options are out there for those unable to have children on their own. They all come with a heft price tag. Some heftier than others.
So, I am feeling the pressure and feeling it HARD. I think that being so close to my transfer is giving me a cold dose of reality. But rather than look at with negativity and fear, we need to take the opportunity to make a plan. After my second IVF surgery if you asked me, I was done and would have NEVER even entertained the idea of a 3rd IVF. I feel like sometimes you have to be like a financial strategist and use the money you have in the most effective way.
While I don’t have any answers yet for where our journey will lead us, I wanted to let you know that it’s not always a straight line. Whether we will start prepping for a transfer or an egg retrieval, we will continue to start each day with gratitude and hope. Hope that one day, I will be holding my baby in my arms. Not a moment in each day goes by without thinking about this. I might be broken at times, but I will not give up. Sharing my story with you all through my blog posts and instagram stories has given my struggle a purpose. Your constant love and support is unbelieveable. If only I could share all the stories that have been shared with me. The stories are proof of the unbelievable amount of strength and hope that you all hold in your hearts. IVF can create miracles. I will be waiting for mine.
To my fellow IVF warriors, I am so inspired by your strength. Never give up.
To my husband, I could not do any of this without you. The love I have for you grows every day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for navigating this journey together.
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog - You are so brave, and so kind for sharing your journey so openly on the internet! I feel like I’m right there with you as you face the different emotions. Best, best, best of luck! You got it!
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you Charmaine. <3 <3
The pink pineapple - Great post, beautiful couple
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you <3
Kate - Ahh Kim, I felt like I was reading each word with bated breath. Sending nothing but the most positive vibes your way. I’ve known too many women who have struggled in various way, both with IVF and miscarriage (my sister lost 5 babies along the way before she ended up with her gorgeous family of 3 boys!) and you just never know what people are going through. But in all the cases I’ve encountered, there has eventually been happy endings and I know there will be for you too!! Lots of love & hugs to you and Blake. I can’t wait to read the happy news someday.
eat.sleep.wear. - Kate, Thank you for taking the time to leave me a comment. I know you are a CRAZY busy woman. Thank you again for the positive vibes and love <3 <3 <3
Jennifer - Your willingness to be so open is inspiring. Even though I don’t have experience with this struggle, it’s a good reminder to stay positive no matter what life throws at you. I have been following along and am praying for your happy ending! I know it will come!
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much Jennifer. It’s so true. Everyone has their own struggles and positivity and alot of HOPE will help us get through. xo, Kim
Kristin - The journey through IVF is never an easy one and it takes amazing courage and strength to share this personal journey with the world. To lose that sense of identity as a woman is one of the hardest feelings for her to face and to have to do it silently can take a toll on you, no matter how strong you are. Using your platform to give those other women a sense of belonging is a beautiful thing and the respect I have for you is indescribable. Thank you for being the voice to the millions of women out there fighting the same battle everyday. When the time is right, you will get your baby and I look forward to reading the exciting news! Keep strong and positive! We are all with you through your journey.
eat.sleep.wear. - I am so glad I can help woman (and men) in any small way. I am blessed to have a platform to bring awareness to such an important issue that many face. We will keep our hope alive. Thank you for the warm thoughts. xo, Kim
Kylie - Thank you for being so honest. My husband and I just started our journey. Although I have numerous medical issues and abdominal surgeries, IVF struggles are the same for all of us. I needed this, thanks for sharing your story and more importantly your faith and hope in the process.
eat.sleep.wear. - Kylie, So glad I could help uplift your day. Best of luck! xo, Kim
Kim - Your story brings me to tears and I pray that you have the strength to carry on to wherever God may lead you. Just two years ago, my sister was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer at the age of 34- right as she was hoping to add a second baby to her family. She was heartbroken when the doctors told her she would not be able to have another baby because of her type of tumor (estrogen driven) as well as the medications she would be on for the next ten years. IVF was not an option for them financially and time was of the essence to get her started on chemo. Well- here we are two years later and my sister (who is cancer free now!) and her husband are fostering to adopt a beautiful baby girl, through an agency here in LA. She was “delivered” to them on Mother’s Day at just 5 days old. However you choose and are able to grow your family- never give up. You have options. It will happen for you two. Love and Blessings to you.
eat.sleep.wear. - Kim, My heart breaks for your sister and her struggle. I can’t even imagine. I totally agree with you that however my family finds me, I will be a mother. Your story is so touching and I am so happy for your sister being cancer-free and enjoying motherhood. What a blessing. If I ever go down that road, I will be sure to reach out. xoxo Kim
Lauren - Kim,
Thank you for continuing to share your story. As a fellow IVF warrior mama, my and my husbands hearts are with your and Blake’s. Chin up, you are doing amazing. Sending good vibes your way from the east coast!
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much Lauren! Means alot. xoxo Kim
Natalie Fernandez - Infertility is definitely the hardest thing I have ever done. I love 3 babies before each of my girls and honestly can’t say it made me stronger but what it did do was made me appreciate every damn day with both of them. I am sending you so much light and love in these insanely hard days. Thank you so much for being so strong to share your journey.
eat.sleep.wear. - <3 thank you so much for your thoughts <3
Tory - Every time you post an IVF update I am once again reminded how strong you, and every other woman/couple going through IVF, are. While I have not tried to have any children yet, I am eternally grateful for you and others like you that choose to share their stories. So many women and couples hide their struggles with infertility so thank you for sharing your story to let those who are having difficult know that they are not alone. I am sending you a million good vibes and I am so excited to one day share in your joy when you share with us that you are expecting a miracle baby! Oh, and before I forget, eat that ice cream! You most definitely deserve it.
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much. I will most definitely be eating the ice cream. Thanks for the well wishes! xo
Kritsida - It’s so great of you to share your story! Good luck! I know everything will work out perfectly!
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you Kritsida! xo
Miyan - Wow- you are so amazing for sharing the depths of your story and journey with us. Thank you for being so honest and transparent . This hits close to home as I have recently stopped taking my birth control and hubby and I talk about growing our family but I have no idea what our journey looks like .
eat.sleep.wear. - Miyan, I am so happy to share this with you all. Best of luck to you and hoping its a quick path to baby. xo, Kim
Kristen - I found your blog with your first IVF post. Thank you for sharing the updates. I’m on the journey as well and taking a bunch of vitamins before another round. It’s a crazy journey. Amazing on one hand because we get the opportunity to go on it. But also discouraging and hard when things don’t go as planned.
Wishing you the best in your next steps!
eat.sleep.wear. - I completely agree. Best of luck to you on your next step. xo, Kim
Kristen - Thanks for sharing. Your words are as if spoken from my own heart. Infertility is the most difficult struggle I have ever experienced. The sense of being so out of control of your own body is so difficult and something you described so well. After two very successful egg retrievals that yielded no genetically normal embryos, we finally had one precious normal embryo from our third retrieval. Only to get a negative pregnancy test a few days ago. So devastating. As I’ve spent the past few days struggling with whether or not to continue our ivf journey, reading your post was comforting and a reminder that there is still hope and that is what we must cling to. Thank you! And prayers for you for a successful outcome! And soon!
eat.sleep.wear. - Kristen, Thank you for your message. My heart is breaking as I read about your negative test. It’s so hard. Sending you the biggest hug and know that you miracle is still waiting for you 🙂 xo, Kim
Merl - oh sweet friend, my heart goes out to you and Blake for this long, arduous journey and I truly hope at the end you will have a happy, healthy baby to call your own. Thank you for sharing your story and letting other women know they aren’t alone in these struggles as they are heart breakingly more common than we all think. sending you kittens all the love and strength
eat.sleep.wear. - Merl, Thank you so so much for your love. Thank you for sending me all the kittens. Kindred spirits. Miss you! xo
MJ - Kim, your story is incredibly inspirational. Thank you for sharing it with us. Stay strong and positive. Im sure you will have your miracle some day in the near future, but meanwhile ill be sendig my love and prayers for you and Blake. Not sure if you belive in God but im certain that His timing is perfect and He has bigger plans for your family. All my love from Honduras.
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much for you love and prayers. xo, Kim
Kelly Golightly - I am sending all my love your way. I hope you don’t mind me saying, but I feel like you are already a mother. Selfless, strong, vulnerable, brave and willing to do anything for your baby and family. A true mama bear.
I have nothing but positive vibes and can see your future, bright and beautiful.
Love you and admire your strength and vulnerability. Your future baby is SO lucky to have you as his/her mama xoxoxoxoxooxo.
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much Kelly. Means the world and happy to have you on our side! <3
Sophie - Truly hoping this time will be with great results Kim! Cannot believe an ERA test costs this much! Wouldn’t even be able to pay that! Anyways, if you can, it’s definitely all worth it to do such tests.
Praying for you two and crossing my fingers!
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much for your well wishes <3 <3
Eve Lorigan - Wow, I can relate to so much of what you’ve written here. I love following your journey, You write about it so well. This journey is a real struggle but I will never regret going through the fight. I find the bloating and feeling totally out of control with what’s happening my body very difficult. I think it’s important to keep the love, hope & sense of humour going as much as possible. Wishing you the very best with your next transfer.
eat.sleep.wear. - The body changes and not being able to have any control is very, very hard. I know it seems so insignificant to outsiders not enduring this process but it’s every small things that add up to be a hard process. Thank you for sharing with me and for your well wishes. Best of luck to you as well! xo
Megan - Wow! Thank you for sharing. While we are a year out from our fourth, final and successful IVF, I wanted to let you know I have been where you and thousands of others have been and I so appreciate your comments about Plan B. As a planner, it was my biggest struggle during the process; learning that things don’t always go as planned and you have to learn to go with the flow. I, like you, never got many eggs – rd 1 = 4, rd 2 = 1, rd 3 = cancelled, rd 4 = 5 of mine and 8 donor eggs…I now have a beautiful biological little girl after only 2 of those 13 eggs made it to day 3 (both mine). Good luck. We are praying for you!!
Our whole story of loss and hope is posted for others @ mercantileandmadness.com
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you for sharing your story with me. My heart breaks for the journey you have been on but your miracle is here!!!!! Thank you for your well wishes and support. xo, Kim
Cindy - Thank you for sharing your story! I felt like I was right there with you. There are so many couples struggling with IVF.
eat.sleep.wear. - <3 <3 <3
Megan - Thank you for sharing your story. There is still such an (unnecessary) stigma associated with infertility and I find you to be very brave. As a fellow IVF warrior, I wish you nothing but the best. We did two cycles (the first one, very sadly, ended at 15 weeks gestation) and the second led to our oldest daughter. Just after we met with our RE to start the next cycle, were miraculously blessed by getting pregnant on our own, which led to the birth of our second daughter.
Infertility is all-encompassing, it truly takes over your life. I hope that one day it will be a distant memory. I am not saying this to discount how you are currently feeling (AT ALL) because my fertility struggles were the toughest times in my life… I only wish to give you hope that this won’t be your life forever.
I read your post and I cried. I cried for you. I cried for myself. I cried for all of the women and men who so desperately want to start their family and are having trouble doing so.
I truly wish you all the best. Thank you again for being so honest.
eat.sleep.wear. - Megan, thank you for your message. What a beautiful story. I am so happy that you got your rainbow baby and then your miracle of a second daughter. Thank you for your well wishes of hope and love. Hug those girls tight for me today. xoxo Kim
Emme - my only comment- you are in my prayers-
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you very much <3
yadi - I’ve been reading your blog for years. I think this is the first time I actually read a full post. Had to re-read some sentences, also. I’m sending lots of love and good thoughts your way. I had my own miracle baby 3.5 years ago. Blessings!
eat.sleep.wear. - Awe, well thank you for taking the time to read this post. I know my others are MUCH shorter. So glad you go your miracle baby. Thank you for the well wishes! xo
Tracey - Thank you for continuing to share your story with us. As I said before I will continue to check on you because us followers are on this journey with you and Blake and we’re here for the both of you and your family.
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you for your support Tracey! xo
Caitlin - Your openness and honesty on this experience is helping so many women and families. THANK YOU! You and Blake are in my heart and in my hopes xoxo
eat.sleep.wear. - Caitlin,
thank you for the kind words. <3
Elsie - Thank you for sharing your journey. I can’t imagine everything you’re going through, I am sending you lots of love, lights, and prayers. One of my best friends is struggling with infertility right now as well, and I’m not sure the best way to help her. What’s been your favorite thing your friends and family done to show you support and love in this difficult time? On a side note, I’m happy people are talking about IVF, it truly is a miracle. My twin brother and I are the products of IVF and we just turned 30 this year!
eat.sleep.wear. - Elsie, Thank you for your kind words. Honestly, it was nice to have friends send a hand written card, send a bouquet of flowers out of the blue. Those small gestures meant so much to me. It really showed them going above and beyond to connect with me. While many of them didn’t know how to say they supported me, their actions were a huge indicator that they were there for me. OH MY GOODNESS. You are a rainbow baby!!! What a miracle. IVF is so difficult but it is truly the most amazing thing ever. Thank you so much for writing me a message. xo
Rachel - I just came across this. Thank you. We are starting our ivf round 2… in fact I started my estrogen patch today (I’m 36 so upping my hormones during luteal phase). I talk about it a lot and am very open because I know so many people go through it too. But I really enjoyed reading your blog and I hope all is well.
eat.sleep.wear. - Thank you so much Rachel. Best of luck with your upcoming cycle! xoxo Kim
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